Dear Best Friends and other people I text on a regular basis,
I think it’s time we have a serious conversation about our relationship. Mainly the fact that when I text you (and sometimes even when I snapchat you) I want a response- unless of course the conversation goes something like:
You: Ok, see you soon.
Me: Ok!
Which totally happens, let’s face that. I am talking about the conversations that go something like this:
Me: I bought a new car!
Me: Wanna hang out tonight?
Me: Blah, I hate _____.
I don’t think it’s too much to expect a response. We’re in our twenties- most of us sleep next to our phone- I know you see the message. Is it really too much to say:
You: Nice! What kind? or Yeah, you totally needed one, that’s awesome.
You: I can’t, I’ve got plans with ____ or Umm, duh! What time?
You: What happened? or Yeah, she’s such a bitch.
This is called phone etiquette. I’m not looking for an immediate response (unless we’ve been talking back and forth for awhile and even then stuff happens). I do however, except a response within a day. You are not so non-stop busy that you cannot respond to my message.
If you are that non-stop busy then I expect a response at your earliest availability. This way I don’t have to keep worrying about the fact that you may be dead or seriously injured. Going off of that, if I message you asking if you are dead I absolutely want a response within a few hours.
If you don’t want to talk to me, that’s fine. But be aware that if you don’t respond I’m going to stop texting you. For good. I’m growing up and I don’t need people in my life who don’t want to be in it any longer. A friendship cannot and should not be one sided. Yes, it sucks that we are so far away but how do you expect to maintain a friendship if you don’t communicate? I know I don’t always respond, this is true. Sometimes I’m at work or I’m out with someone else and don’t want to be rude- but I absolutely always text you back before the end of the day.
Anyway, it doesn’t seem that hard. At the very least tell me you’re busy and you’ll get back to me later. That’s cool. I just don’t want to have to worry about you or wonder why you’re ignoring me. I know that’s probably not your intention but you know I can be the mom figure of our social group so just shoot me a message, please.
Anyway, that’s my rant.
xoxo