happierI love this quote, which I guess goes without saying since I selected it for 31 Days of Inspiration, but I’m saying it anyway. I came across this quote relatively recently and I’m glad I did because it applies so much to my life right now.

You know that saying : “As you grow up you realize it is less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones?” Yeah, I’m definitely at that point in my life. I was there a little while ago as well, but it’s only been recently that I’ve stopped holding on to friendships and relationships that have been nothing but toxic to my well-being. I definitely don’t wish any malice on my old friends, on the contrary, I wish them all the best, but I am no longer at a stage in my life where I feel like I need to have a bunch of friends to validate my existence, no matter how flaky. At the end of the day, my flaky friends made me feel worse about myself because I either then had no plans, or I was stuck wondering why someone didn’t want to hang out with me. As a result, I’ve let a lot of people go. I can only put so much work in to a relationship (platonic or romantic) without the other person putting in work before I’m over it. That’s what really ended a lot of my friendships : the simple fact that I cared more about being friends than the other person did. And I get it, life comes up and I don’t require that we talk everyday but I also would like you to put in a little work.

That brings me to where I am now. I have a group of amazing friends. We’ll call them my A-List friends. I talk to them almost every day, whether it is for a few minutes or a few hours. Being their friend isn’t work. I don’t have to wait for hours to get a reply (unless they are napping, and after about 30 minutes I assume that and go do my own thing) and I’m not worried about staying “cool enough” to hang out with them. That is a source of great joy.

I also have a super amazing family. It’s amazing how great you feel when you let go of all the dead weight that you are holding on to. I am definitely a much happier person, and I’m sure my friends and family appreciate that as well.

Here’s to an even better 2016!