Happy Wednesday. Two posts in the same week? Wow. I’m impressed with myself.
Anyway, I’m not sure where or when I found this quote but no matter where you are in life this quote can apply to you. It doesn’t have to just be in a relationship- it can be a job or a friendship or really anything.
I’m not really sure why I chose this quote this week. Maybe it’s because I was in Wisconsin over the weekend but I like to think it’s because Calla officially started dating a new guy. Ok, ok, I’ll back up and explain. Calla is one of my best friends. We met my junior year of college because I was dating a guy (Richard) who was best friends with her boyfriend (Earl). The relationship’s with the guys didn’t last but ours sure has. Calla and Earl dated for about three and a half years and it was a messy breakup, let me tell you that. This was about a year ago. [Fast Forward]
Calla was my friend that was nameless in a post a few weeks ago. You may remember her as the friend I burned clothes with. Anyway, for about a year she pined after Earl and hoped they were going to get back together. I’m not judging because I did the exact same thing with my high school sweetheart. And in both cases, it was great for awhile. Until it wasn’t. Until it was too painful and too emotional to be around someone that no longer cared for you the way that you cared for them. Until you no longer feel like you are floating on cloud nine but rather at the lowest place in your life. That is a miserable feeling. So miserable that the only thing you can do is close that chapter to your life so that you can start the next one.
That’s why this post is titled “The Next Chapter”. Calla started dating a new guy about two weeks ago and they just officially started to date a couple days ago. I am so incredibly proud of/for her.
Anyway, closing a chapter can be painful and incredibly hard. This is life after all. But it is your life. And you are the only person who has to live with all of your actions and decisions your entire life; everyone else just makes an appearance. There is no reason that you should have to endure pain that you inflict on yourself because you want to hold on to the memories. I have a secret for you. The memories will always be there. With time however, the pain will fade. It may take a lot of time. It may take a vacation or moving or starting a new job, but the pain of the last chapter will eventually go away. You will get a promotion, you will find the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with and you will be happy. You just have to let go and realize that you deserve it.
Dearest Calla, this one’s for you. And for me once I decide to take my own advice.
xoxo