Another great quote about external beauty and internal beauty. The other day my article was about being fat and the number that we see on the scale and how being fat really isn’t the worst thing in the world, though society tells us that it is. I feel like this quote goes hand in hand with that idea as well – that internal beauty is so much more than external beauty. It seems like many women agree with that based on how many likes the instagram photo received.
There are a lot of very beautiful women (and men) in this world. And while I’m not saying that all of them are bad people, there were a lot of them that I know personally that felt entitled to behave in a manner that was less than beautiful. Let me give you a few examples. I work with a gentleman who has a very pretty girlfriend. He’s a taller and bigger guy and she’s the size of my pinky finger (not really but I think you get the idea.) Anyway, he works two jobs while she goes to school (not sure on if she has a job or not) and is also paying for them to have a new house built. The other day he accidentally threw away the can opener. That day while he was at work, his girlfriend texted him asking where the can opener was. He said he accidentally threw it away but was going to buy a new electric one. She lost her marbles. Evidence of this is in the numerous emails she sent him cussing him out telling him how stupid he was for throwing it away. A can opener. She was blowing up his phone at work and told him that she was not going to pick him up from work (his car was in the shop). In the late spring through fall this would have been a mild inconvenience, as they lived 2-3 miles away from work. Oh no, we live in Iowa and it is winter here right now – and he wore shorts to work. Fortunately another one of our co-workers saw him and picked him up and gave him a ride home. That is absolutely ridiculous. However, even more ridiculous is why he put up with it : because she’s pretty and he could never get a girl like that again. There you have it my friends, in our society we are told to value external beauty before internal beauty. You know that if she wasn’t as good looking that she would be out on her bum.
Example two. In college I crushed on this guy who I thought was beyond ridiculously attractive. Despite disagreeing when someone complimented him on his looks, deep down he knew he was a really beautiful person- on the outside. On the inside his actions make him a pretty ugly person. He would take pain killers, get drunk and punch walls. One night I remember hanging out with some girlfriends that lived on his floor when he came back after punching a cement wall. I bandaged up his hand and we thought we had put him to bed. Until he came back a few hours later with no bandage. A few years later he and I were unofficially seeing each other (yep, I know, but he was mighty handsome and I’m not perfect) and for what it’s worth, he does have a few redeeming qualities. One night I came back from the bar alone (after we had a long talk about how we were going to make it official just that night outside the bar – apparently he left early with friends) and I get to his room and he won’t let me in. Two guesses as to why. Anyone? Anyone? Yeah, there was another chick in there. One of my girlfriends grabbed me in the hall and told me about how he had been sleeping with her for a few weeks and how she knew because she was an athletic trainer for the sports team the girl was on. All because he knew he was beautiful he thought he could use people and then discard them like garbage when he was done with them. I blame him; he’s a crappy person, but more than that I blame society, because society tells us that this is ok and that beautiful people can get away with whatever they want.
One of my flaws is that I do put a lot of work in to my physical beauty. I’ve gotten better at it and even gone out in public without makeup on (my sixteen year old self would hate me for doing that). More importantly though I’m working on becoming a beautiful person on the inside. Despite all my hard work, at some point my beauty will start to go and I will not always look like I am twenty years old. But internal beauty, shoot, that lasts forever.
As a final note, this quote reminds me a lot of the movie Shallow Hal. If you haven’t seen it then it’s worth a watch (I’m not sure what it’s rated or if there is cursing in it, it’s been awhile) because it’s about this guy named Hal who only dates super hot chicks who are total witches. Someone puts a curse on him and then he only sees internal beauty so all these hot chicks turn in to ladies with warts and saggy skin and this 300 pound lady looks like a model to him. It’s got a great moral to the story – internal beauty always beats out external beauty when the right eyes are looking.
xoxo