“My darling girl, when are you going to understand that normalcy isn’t necessarily a virtue but rather denotes a lack of courage.”
– Practical Magic
Happy Wednesday to all my readers!! I hope you are doing well and enjoying the weather. It rained here a few days ago which totally broke the heat. And I moved desks at work- and yes, I did get the promotion- and now I sit under the A/C which is freezing. Either way, wanted to get on top of my post for the day and get it sent out at a reasonable hour.
What does this quote mean to me? Let me explain… growing up everyone wants to be normal and fit in. I remember wanting to have clothes from a certain store because that’s where the “cool kids” shopped. There’s an enormous and unnecessary amount of pressure to conform to society and what society thinks is cool, beautiful, normal. I’d be lying if I said that at times I didn’t try to be what someone else wanted me to be. And you know what I got out of it? Nothing. No satisfaction. Nothing. Nothing except the knowledge that I was deceiving someone.
Like being super thin. I used to be very thin back in high school with nice assets (if you know what I’m saying…) and I was also very popular. Now, not so much. I work out but I also drink (I’ve cut back a lot though.) but sitting on my butt at work doesn’t help out a whole lot. I gotta make some real changes. And not for society, but for me. Well, maybe a little for society. I think the important part is toggling the line between being who you are and comfortable with not being with the in crowd all the time as well as being who you wanna be if that is part of being in the in crowd. Does that make any sense? I wanna be skinny again- partially because society says skinny is pretty, but mainly because I liked how I felt when I was skinny and I want to look good for myself.
But I agree with this quote- don’t change who you are so that people like you. You’re attracting the wrong kind of people then and eventually your act is going to catch up with you. Instead, be who you are and eventually the right people are going to come along and you will have a more rewarding, fulfilling friendship.
xoxo